After teaching more than 9,018 students over the past 5 years in QiMen Manifestation, many often ask…

 

“Roy, what’s your story?”

 

“How did a regular Singaporean like you go from rock bottom to building a 7-figure business?”

 

And the truth is… I could share my entire life story with you… but I believe stories are only powerful when they lead to lessons that can create real transformation.

 

So instead, let me share with you 9 life lessons that I painfully earned over 25 years - lessons I truly wish someone had told me earlier.

 

Because maybe… just maybe… they will change the way you look at your own life, too.

 

 

Life Lesson #1: Life May Trap You, But Don’t Trap Yourself

 

I was born on this tiny sunny island called Singapore.

 

No oil. No gold. No natural resources - except human capital.

 

My parents worked 12-hour shifts just to raise my brother and me.

 

We squeezed 8 adults and one child (me!) into a tiny 500 sq ft HDB flat. I still remember sleeping with one eye open, hearing my grandma’s kampong stories late into the night.

 

At 14, I started working at McDonald’s. That was my first taste of earning money - S$3 an hour. When I got promoted to crew leader, my pay went up by 20 cents. Eight hours gave me S$1.60 more.

 

That was my first taste of the rat race.

 

At 21, I was stuck in the army, completely unmotivated and hating every moment. I had no freedom, no clarity, and no drive.

 

So… I did the unthinkable.

 

I signed a 5-year contract with the Singapore Armed Forces!

 

People thought I was crazy. But guess what?

 

It changed my life.

 

I got trained as a Signal Communication Specialist, an Intelligence Analyst, a Tank Commander, and even flew to Hawaii to train with the US Marines.

 

And that’s when I learnt…

 

No matter how trapped you feel, never trap yourself.

 

You can choose to let fate decide, or you can create your own path and write your destiny.

 

“You may be in a cage. But don’t become the one who locks the door.”

 

Life Lesson #2: Model Success, Don’t Reinvent the Wheel

 

“Why build a ladder from scratch when someone has already carved a staircase?”

 

After the army, I launched my first internet business.

 

I didn’t even know how to play RuneScape… but I launched the top-selling ebook for it.

 

Why? Because I knew how to market it.

 

That one product gave me passive income for 5 years straight.

 

But what really sped up my success?

 

I paid a mentor.

 

While others were saving money and wasting time, I invested hard-earned cash to shortcut my learning curve.

Spend money to save time. Don’t spend time to save money.

If someone has 10 years of experience, mistakes, and wisdom… why not pay to learn from it?

 

This is the fastest path to success. I teach this in every QiMen Manifestation Masterclass.

 

Is your time cheap or expensive?

 

If it's expensive, hire a coach. If it’s cheap, keep struggling.

 

Life Lesson #3: Kindness Is a Wealth Strategy

 

 

“When you water others’ gardens, your own begins to bloom.”

 

Over the years, I’ve donated school shoes, bags, and supplies to children in Sri Lanka - something I do with my family every year.

 

Why?

 

Because giving changed me.

 

And from my spiritual teacher, I learned this simple truth:

 

The power of planting seed.

 

You can respond to evil with evil… or respond to life with kindness and meet angels along the way.

 

The more I gave, the more goodness came back to me - through people, opportunities, and even miracles.

 

Life Lesson #4: Don’t Let Fear Become Your Default

 

Despite my positive mindset, things eventually fell apart.

 

One business partner betrayed me and took everything - clients, income, and trust.

 

I was 6 figures in debt. Lost my condo. Got slapped with bankruptcy letters from two banks. No income for 6 months. No insurance. Nothing.

 

I hit rock bottom with nothing but worries. Drove Grab for 5 hours each morning, then worked 10 hours in a sales role, then back to Grab till 11pm.

 

I repeated this 7 days a week.

 

I felt like I was thrown into a deep, dark hole.

 

And yet… I didn’t give up.

 

Turns out, it was preparing me.

 

Sometimes, rock bottom is the solid foundation upon which you rebuild your future.

 

Use failure to fuel your dream. Don’t use fear to freeze your actions.

 

I refused to let my past define me. I wasn’t a failure unless I quit.

 

Life Lesson #5: Be Impatient With Actions, Patient With Results

 

In my darkest hour, I realised something profound.

 

Success wasn’t a single leap - it was a daily grind.

 

So I focused on small, consistent actions: meditation, yoga, journaling. These simple habits built emotional resilience.

 

You can’t shortcut progress. But you can accelerate it with consistent action.

 

The problem with most people? They want fruit in 3 days after planting a seed.

 

But you don’t grow trees by yelling at them. You water them. Every. Single. Day.

Consistency is the ultimate cheat code in life.

Impatience with results causes frustration.

 

Impatience with action creates momentum.

 

Guess which one gets you out of your mess?

 

Life Lesson #6: Simplicity Wins

 

 

I wanted to own a FengShui house. But I was broke and in debt.

 

Still, I followed a simple manifestation ritual with QiMen:

 

I back-faced my personal direction.

 

Repeated my manifestation command daily.

 

17 days later, I found my dream home at level 18 - exactly what I had visualised.

 

Simple scales. Complex fails.

 

If it’s too complicated, you’ll procrastinate.

 

The beauty of QiMen Manifestation is in its simplicity - it gave me the energy, clarity, and power to rebuild from scratch.

 

Life Lesson #7: Play to Win, Not to “Not Lose”

 

“If you play to avoid losing, you’ve already lost the game.”

 

A friend once told me, “Roy, teach your story. You have something the world needs.”

 

I resisted. I thought - Who would want to learn from a guy who was once homeless, broke, and labelled a failure?

 

But he believed in me more than I believed in myself.

 

I launched my first QiMen webinar.

 

200 signed up. 100 attended live. 15 joined my masterclass.

 

But here’s what I realised - people don’t follow perfection. They follow the truth.

 

And truthfully? My scars were my credibility.

 

And that began everything.

 

If I played safe, I would still be hiding behind fear.

 

Instead, I played to win. I stepped up even when it was uncomfortable.

 

Fear is like rust. It slowly corrodes your potential if you let it sit too long.

 

Courage? That’s the decision to step forward even when the ground looks unstable.

 

And I’ve run live classes for over 400 students during a pandemic. We’ve now taught thousands in 18 cities with 7-figure revenue.

 

Life Lesson #8: Don’t Manage Time. Manage Energy.

 

“Time is constant. Energy is currency.”

 

Here’s a hard truth:

 

You don’t lack time. You lack energy and clarity.

 

Over the years, I tracked my energy daily.

 

On great days, I work on big goals. On bad days, I protect my mind.

 

If you don’t have a framework to manage your time, your time will manage you.

 

Productivity is not about doing more. It’s about doing what matters with the right energy.

 

Life Lesson #9: What Gets Measured, Gets Managed

 

“You can’t fix what you don’t track.”

 

Building a 7-figure business isn’t luck. It’s a system.

 

From YouTube video production to marketing campaigns, we track ROI to the decimal.

 

No guessing. Just numbers.

Every number told a story.

Imagine flying a plane with no dashboard. Would you trust the pilot?

 

Then why fly blindly in your business?

 

You can’t grow what you don’t measure.

 

Where are you now? Where do you want to go? What’s the gap?

 

Systems aren’t restrictive. They’re liberating.

 

They let you focus on creativity because your operations are handled.

 

Track your progress, and you’ll improve your probability of success.

 

Bonus Life Lesson: Never, Ever Give Up

 

 

“If you’re walking through the storm, it means you haven’t been struck down yet.”

 

The most important lesson after 25 years?

 

I never stopped moving forward.

 

Even when I had no money, no home, and no hope - I kept one candle burning.

 

Some days, I ran. Some days, I crawled. But I never stopped.

 

Never give up on your dreams. Never give up on learning. Never give up on you.

 

Because storms will pass.

 

The sun doesn’t ask your permission to rise - it just does.

 

So should you.

 

Final Thoughts

 

These 9 life lessons are more than just principles. They're real truths.

 

I’ve walked through financial deserts, spiritual valleys, and emotional hurricanes.

 

But today, I woke up with gratitude, clarity, and peace - not because life is perfect, but because I kept walking.

 

Your path to 7-figure success doesn’t start with money, talent, or luck.

 

It starts with one decision:

 

Will you stay trapped by your past?

 

Or will you write your own destiny?

 

If this message speaks to you…

 

I’d love to see you at one of my upcoming QiMen Manifestation Masterclasses.

 

Your next chapter is waiting. The only thing left - is for you to turn the page.

 

Let’s write your success story - starting today.

About the Author

 

Roy Phay is an investor, entrepreneur, and the creator of QiMen Intelligence™, a system that helps high-performers time their boldest decisions with energetic precision.

 

Known as the QiMen Alignment Expert, Roy helps leaders align life and business strategy with the windows where results are most likely to land.

 

Join me on this journey in my QiMen Manifestation Masterclass, and let's create meaningful success together!